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Fear of Commitment

Possible Buried Feelings
Loss of freedomvulnerabilityavoidancedistrustfear of being trappedrestlessness

Possible Buried Beliefs

  • “Commitment means losing myself.”
  • “I need an exit.”
  • “Choosing means being trapped.”
  • “If I never commit, I cannot be hurt.”

Healing Notes

Emotion Link offers these as possible associations to explore, not causes or diagnoses. Possible purpose or secondary gain: staying uncommitted may protect freedom and prevent the risk of being disappointed or engulfed. From the 2023 Emotion Link Reference Guide — possible emotional associations: avoiding commitment can prevent being hurt — and if someone leaves, their leaving can seem to validate your own noncommitment. Possible purpose or secondary gain: protection from being hurt, and proof that holding back was right.

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Not a diagnosis. Not medical advice. An invitation to listen.