Checking an Ex-Partner's Accounts
Positive connections
Curiosity, unresolved attachment
Only if personally recognizable
Emotional connections during this preference
Abandonment, grief, obsession, jealousy, resentment, control
Go Deeper
What are you hoping to confirm about your ex? Would a new partner's appearance feel like a loss of your own worth?
Possible buried beliefs
“I have been replaced.”
Hard Places
A specific breakup, betrayal, or unresolved jealousy.
More questions
If you could not turn to this activity, what feeling or responsibility might come into view?
Does the experience help you understand something painful, or repeatedly strengthen resentment?
Does not knowing or not being in control remain uncomfortable after the activity ends?
Does comparing yourself with someone involved in this preference change your sense of worth?