Competitive Ranked Games
Positive connections
Achievement, improvement, recognition
Only if personally recognizable
Emotional connections during this preference
Skill development; competitive achievement; rank-based comparison; status anxiety; shame; superiority; perfectionism.
Go Deeper
Does gaining rank bring pleasure or mainly relief from feeling inferior?
How do you treat yourself and teammates after losing?
Does another player’s ranking inspire you or leave you resentful?
Possible buried beliefs
“My rank defines my worth.”
“If I lose, I am inadequate.”
“I must be above others.”
Hard Places
Public criticism, comparison, pressure to perform, fear of failure.
More questions
If you could not turn to this activity, what feeling or responsibility might come into view?
Does the experience help you understand something painful, or repeatedly strengthen resentment?
Does not knowing or not being in control remain uncomfortable after the activity ends?
Does comparing yourself with someone involved in this preference change your sense of worth?