The Ex-Checking Trap
The Hook
Repeatedly viewing an ex-partner’s accounts
How the Tactic Works
Fresh posts about an ex can invite repeated checking, even though the platform is not necessarily targeting heartbreak.
How AI / Algorithms May Amplify It
Prior interactions may make related accounts or content easier to encounter.
How to Recognize It
I search for evidence of replacement even though it repeatedly hurts me.
What It May Touch
Jealousy, abandonment, grief, rejection, inferiority, possessiveness, resentment, control, obsession, self-pity
Possible Buried Belief
“I’ve been replaced. I need to know what they’re doing.”