Buried Feeling
Unwanted, invisible, inferior, rejected, empty, not enough.
Buried Belief
- “If I am desired, I matter.”
- “If I am not wanted sexually, I am worthless.”
- “I need attention to feel alive.”
- “My value depends on being chosen.”
- “If one person wants me, it is not enough.”
- “I must perform to be loved.”
Hard-to-Go Place
Feeling worthy without needing sexual attention, pursuit, flirting, fantasy, or conquest to prove value. Sexual validation may provide temporary proof of worth, desirability, power, and emotional importance.
Next Step
Ask, "What am I hoping sexual attention will prove about me?"