Buried Feeling
Numb, empty, ashamed, lonely, anxious, out of control.
Buried Belief
- “I need this to feel okay.”
- “I cannot sit with this urge.”
- “Pleasure is the only relief I have.”
- “I am already broken, so why stop?”
- “The urge is stronger than me.”
- “If I do not act, I will have to feel.”
Hard-to-Go Place
Staying with the urge long enough to feel the emotion underneath it without acting, hiding, or collapsing into shame. Compulsion may provide relief, stimulation, escape, punishment, control, or temporary release from buried pain.
Next Step
Ask, "What feeling rises if I do not act on this urge?"