Buried Feeling
Numb, lonely, rejected, bored, ashamed, emotionally deprived.
Buried Belief
- “Porn is safer than real intimacy.”
- “I can get pleasure without being vulnerable.”
- “I do not have to risk rejection.”
- “This is just fantasy.”
- “I need this to relax or escape.”
- “I cannot feel desire without stimulation.”
Hard-to-Go Place
Facing the loneliness, boredom, rejection, shame, or emotional deprivation underneath the urge. Porn may provide stimulation, escape, control, novelty, fantasy, secrecy, and a way to avoid real emotional risk.
Next Step
Before using porn, pause and ask, "What feeling would I have to face if I did not escape into stimulation right now?"
You found a possible Link
Identifying the buried feeling or belief is the first step. The next step is learning how to work with what you’ve found.
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