Buried Feeling
Inadequate, exposed, embarrassed, judged, pressured, not enough.
Buried Belief
- “I must perform perfectly to be wanted.”
- “If I fail sexually, I am defective.”
- “My worth depends on performance.”
- “I will be judged.”
- “I am not enough as I am.”
- “I have to prove myself.”
Hard-to-Go Place
Allowing sexual connection to be human, honest, imperfect, and emotionally present without turning it into a test of worth. Performance anxiety may provide control, vigilance, self-protection, or a way to avoid emotional surrender.
Next Step
Ask, "What am I afraid my performance will prove about me?"
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Identifying the buried feeling or belief is the first step. The next step is learning how to work with what you’ve found.
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