Sex Issues

Novelty / Variety Seeking

Buried Feeling

Bored, trapped, restless, numb, deprived, afraid of depth.

Buried Belief
  • Newness means aliveness.
  • If desire fades, love is gone.
  • Depth means loss of freedom.
  • Routine kills passion.
  • I need novelty to feel alive.
  • If I stay with one person, I will miss out.
Hard-to-Go Place

Staying present when the excitement fades and intimacy asks for depth, honesty, patience, repair, and maturity. Novelty may provide stimulation, escape, dopamine, fantasy, distraction, or avoidance of boredom and emotional depth.

Next Step

Ask, "What feeling am I escaping by needing something new?"

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