Buried Feeling
Unsafe, exposed, vulnerable, trapped, afraid, overwhelmed.
Buried Belief
- “If I let someone close, I will be hurt.”
- “If I am fully known, I will be rejected.”
- “Intimacy means losing myself.”
- “Love always becomes control.”
- “Closeness is dangerous.”
- “It is safer to stay sexually connected but emotionally distant.”
Hard-to-Go Place
Allowing emotional closeness, honesty, and vulnerability without escaping into distance, fantasy, novelty, or performance. Sex may become a way to imitate intimacy while avoiding the deeper risk of being truly known.
Next Step
Ask, "Am I using sex to create closeness, avoid closeness, or control closeness?"
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Identifying the buried feeling or belief is the first step. The next step is learning how to work with what you’ve found.
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