Sex Issues

Dominance / Control Pattern

Buried Feeling

Powerless, humiliated, unsafe, angry, controlled, afraid.

Buried Belief
  • If I am in control, I am safe.
  • If I dominate, I cannot be hurt.
  • Power protects me from shame.
  • I must never be helpless again.
  • Control makes me desirable.
  • If I lose control, I lose myself.
Hard-to-Go Place

Feeling powerlessness, humiliation, anger, or fear without needing control to manage it. Dominance may provide safety, structure, power, revenge, distance, or a way to reverse old helplessness.

Next Step

Ask, "Where do I feel powerless when I am not in control?"

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