Buried Feeling
Unwanted, trapped, resentful, deprived, bored, not enough.
Buried Belief
- “I deserve this because my needs are not met.”
- “I need to feel desired.”
- “If I am wanted by someone else, I have value.”
- “Commitment traps me.”
- “I can avoid rejection by keeping an exit.”
- “My desire is more important than honesty.”
Hard-to-Go Place
Facing unmet needs, resentment, fear of commitment, boredom, and the truth before betrayal occurs. Infidelity may provide validation, novelty, revenge, escape, power, or a way to avoid vulnerability and accountability.
Next Step
Ask, "What honest conversation am I avoiding by seeking attention, fantasy, or secrecy elsewhere?"