Buried Feeling

Unsafe, pressured, ashamed, resentful, inadequate, afraid.

Buried Belief

“Sex is unsafe.”
“My body is not enough.”
“If I open sexually, I may be used.”
“If I desire, I may lose control.”
“If I say yes, I lose power.”
“If I say no, I may be rejected.”

Hard-to-Go Place

Being honest about fear, resentment, shame, body insecurity, pressure, desire, and trust. Avoiding sex may provide protection, distance, control, safety, punishment, or a way to avoid vulnerability.

Next Step

Ask, "What feeling comes up when sexual closeness is expected or offered?"

You found a possible Link

Identifying the buried feeling or belief is the first step. The next step is learning how to work with what you’ve found.

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