Buried Feeling
Unsafe, pressured, ashamed, resentful, inadequate, afraid.
Buried Belief
- “Sex is unsafe.”
- “My body is not enough.”
- “If I open sexually, I may be used.”
- “If I desire, I may lose control.”
- “If I say yes, I lose power.”
- “If I say no, I may be rejected.”
Hard-to-Go Place
Being honest about fear, resentment, shame, body insecurity, pressure, desire, and trust. Avoiding sex may provide protection, distance, control, safety, punishment, or a way to avoid vulnerability.
Next Step
Ask, "What feeling comes up when sexual closeness is expected or offered?"