Abandonment Avoidance

Buried Feelings

Also known as: abandonment · abandonments · avoidance · avoidances

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Possible Buried Beliefs
  • “If I need someone, they will leave.”
  • “If I love too much, I will be abandoned.”
  • “I am always the one left behind.”
  • “I am not worth staying for.”
  • “People eventually choose someone else.”
  • “It is safer to leave first.”
  • “If I get close, I will eventually be hurt.”
Healing Notes

It eases as you build relationships where being yourself is what's wanted — not what's tolerated.

It loosens with one trusted contact at a time, in doses small enough to stay regulated.

Hard to Go Places

The places the body has been avoiding — the feelings, truths, or moments it has been organised to keep at a distance.

  • Abandonment Avoidance

    Letting yourself love, need, trust, and stay open without leaving first, testing the relationship, sabotaging closeness, cheating, or shutting down.

  • Rejection

    Risking being seen and possibly not chosen.

  • Isolation

    Reaching out before you feel ready.

The Next Step

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