Buried Feeling
Shamefearrejectiondisgustinsecurityvulnerabilityperformance fearbody shameinadequacyfear of being usedfear of being controlledfear of being exposedfear of desirefear of intimacyfear of comparisonfear of not being enough
Buried Belief
- “If I am sexually open, I may be judged.”
- “If I am exposed, I may be rejected.”
- “My body is not enough.”
- “My desire is unsafe.”
- “Sex means vulnerability, and vulnerability is dangerous.”
- “If I am intimate, I may be used, controlled, compared, or abandoned.”
- “If I am not wanted sexually, I am not worthy.”
- “If I desire too much, I will be ashamed.”
Hard-to-Go Place
Being honest about desire, fear, shame, body insecurity, intimacy, rejection, performance fear, comparison, trust, and sexual vulnerability.
Next Step
Name the feeling underneath the avoidance: shame, fear, resentment, insecurity, grief, rejection, lack of trust, or fear of not being enough.
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Identifying the buried feeling or belief is the first step. The next step is learning how to work with what you’ve found.
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