Sexual Avoidance

Shame, fear, rejection, disgust, insecurity, vulnerability, performance fear, body shame, inadequacy, fear of being used, fear of being controlled, fear of being exposed, fear of desire, fear of intimacy, fear of comparison, fear of not being enough.

• “If I am sexually open, I may be judged.”
• “If I am exposed, I may be rejected.”
• “My body is not enough.”
• “My desire is unsafe.”
• “Sex means vulnerability, and vulnerability is dangerous.”
• “If I am intimate, I may be used, controlled, compared, or abandoned.”
• “If I am not wanted sexually, I am not worthy.”
• “If I desire too much, I will be ashamed.”

Being honest about desire, fear, shame, body insecurity, intimacy, rejection, performance fear, comparison, trust, and sexual vulnerability.

Name the feeling underneath the avoidance: shame, fear, resentment, insecurity, grief, rejection, lack of trust, or fear of not being enough.