Buried Feeling
Afraid of closenessafraid of being hurtafraid of being neededafraid of being disappointedexposedunseenrejectedsmotheredcontrollednot enoughreplaceabledistrustfulfear of abandonmentfear of being harmed
Buried Belief
- “If I let someone get too close, they will hurt me.”
- “If I trust someone, they will eventually leave.”
- “If I am fully known, I will be rejected.”
- “Relationships are unsafe.”
- “Love always costs me myself.”
- “It is safer to stay distant.”
- “Not everyone is safe, so no one is safe.”
Hard-to-Go Place
Staying emotionally present in a relationship when fear, disappointment, conflict, vulnerability, or the urge to withdraw appears. The hard-to-go place is realizing that not everyone is going to hurt you, abandon you, control you, or reject you.
Next Step
Pause before pulling away. Ask, "Am I responding to this person, or am I responding to an old wound?"
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Identifying the buried feeling or belief is the first step. The next step is learning how to work with what you’ve found.
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