Avoidance

Rejection Avoidance

Buried Feeling
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Buried Belief
  • “If I am rejected, it proves I am not worthy.”
  • “If they say no, I am not enough.”
  • “I cannot handle being dismissed.”
  • “It is safer not to try.”
  • “Rejection means something is wrong with me.”
  • “I must avoid the risk to avoid the pain.”
  • “I have to leave before being left.”
  • “I need to cheat or keep an exit to protect myself.”
  • “If I reject first, I stay in control.”
Hard-to-Go Place

Risking the ask, the offer, the truth, the attempt, or the expression even when rejection is possible.

Next Step

Take one clean risk. Ask, offer, apply, speak, or express without attaching your worth to the outcome.

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Identifying the buried feeling or belief is the first step. The next step is learning how to work with what you’ve found.

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