Buried Feeling
Fear, guilt, anxiety, shame, fear of rejection, fear of anger, fear of punishment, fear of being harmed, fear of disappointing others, fear of being misunderstood, fear of being blamed, fear of being abandoned.
Buried Belief
- “If I tell the truth, I will be rejected or harmed.”
- “If I disagree, I will be punished.”
- “If someone is upset, I did something wrong.”
- “Conflict means the relationship is unsafe.”
- “I must keep peace by hiding the truth.”
- “My needs create problems.”
- “Being honest will cost me love.”
Hard-to-Go Place
Having the honest conversation without collapsing, attacking, pleasing, hiding, overexplaining, or running away.
Next Step
Say one true sentence without defending it. Begin with, "The honest thing I have been avoiding is…"