Buried Feeling
Fearguiltanxietyshamefear of rejectionfear of angerfear of punishmentfear of being harmedfear of disappointing othersfear of being misunderstoodfear of being blamedfear of being abandoned
Buried Belief
- “If I tell the truth, I will be rejected or harmed.”
- “If I disagree, I will be punished.”
- “If someone is upset, I did something wrong.”
- “Conflict means the relationship is unsafe.”
- “I must keep peace by hiding the truth.”
- “My needs create problems.”
- “Being honest will cost me love.”
Hard-to-Go Place
Having the honest conversation without collapsing, attacking, pleasing, hiding, overexplaining, or running away.
Next Step
Say one true sentence without defending it. Begin with, "The honest thing I have been avoiding is…"
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Identifying the buried feeling or belief is the first step. The next step is learning how to work with what you’ve found.
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