Buried Feeling
Disconnected, unwanted, rejected, disposable, replaceable, left behind, not chosen, forgotten, alone, unsafe, unimportant, invisible, needy, desperate, betrayed.
Buried Belief
- “If I need someone, they will leave.”
- “If I love too much, I will be abandoned.”
- “I am always the one left behind.”
- “I am not worth staying for.”
- “People eventually choose someone else.”
- “It is safer to leave first.”
- “If I get close, I will eventually be hurt.”
Hard-to-Go Place
Letting yourself love, need, trust, and stay open without leaving first, testing the relationship, sabotaging closeness, cheating, or shutting down.
Next Step
When the fear of abandonment appears, do not immediately act from it. Ask, "Where am I abandoning myself right now?"